I am Jewish, yet my sense of Jewishness is puzzling even to myself. I am historically and traditionally Jewish and religiously agnostic. The prayers in the temple during High Holy days don’t mean much to me. Yet, being part of the Jewish tribe means everything.
I observe the major holidays with my family every year without religious belief. I don’t believe in a deity, yet that is part of the cultural, traditional system that binds all Jews to one another as a group. That bond is extremely important to me.
Looking at the whole tradition, I pick and choose what makes sense to me. I am an adult, and I’ve earned the right to believe what makes sense to me. I don’t have to prove that I am Jewish. I know I am.
All too often, people feel that they cannot participate in a religion of their choosing because they don’t believe in every single aspect of that religion or practice every tradition that goes along with the religion. I don’t believe that religion has to be an all-or-nothing choice.
Each faith has its own traditions and customs and guidelines for living a certain way that defines people as a member of that faith. But do you have to do it all to call yourself a Catholic, Baptist, Muslim, or any other? I don’t believe so.
There are many benefits to be derived from participating in a church or temple and there are many benefits to be derived from practicing your religion at home within your family unit. I think it’s okay to associate yourself with a particular group without subscribing to every axiom; participating to the degree you feel comfortable doesn’t make you less of a Baptist or a Catholic or a Muslim.
Catholics are, strictly speaking, not supposed to use any form of birth control yet many of them choose to carefully plan their families rather than to go about their lives without some form of protection against unplanned pregnancies. Are those people not truly Catholics then? Of course they are! They are just picking and choosing what makes sense for them.
There are rules associated with the Mormon faith, such as abstaining from the use of alcohol, caffeine, and tobacco, yet there are Mormons who drink coffee or wine or use tobacco. Are those people not truly Mormons then? Sure they are! They are just picking and choosing what makes sense for them.
You shouldn’t deny yourself the benefits you could enjoy from participating in the religion of your choosing at whatever level you feel comfortable. Take up the parts you believe in and pass on the parts you don’t. If your life is enriched by doing so, as mine is for being Jewish on my own terms, then you can be certain you are doing the right thing for you and your family.
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Dr. Erica Miller