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Worrying—A Waste of Time!

Worrying—A Waste of Time!

I’ll begin by emphasizing the importance of this blog topic. Far too many of us spend far too much time investing in the act of worry—with no payoff. Imagine what most of us could have done with the time we’ve spent fretting. Better yet, imagine what you could accomplish when you decide to send your worries packing.

Why worry?

Typical worriers somehow believe that worrying plays a role in keeping them safe. They suffer from endless agonizing and, therefore, thwart the possibility of bad outcomes. If this were so, believe me I’d join in on the worry party. But, it’s not.

Worry comes from learned brain activity. In other words, you taught yourself what to worry about, when to worry, and how to worry. Perhaps—for whatever reason— you worry that something bad might happen. Whether it does or not, you’ve taught yourself to kick in the worry response. Now it’s time to un-learn it—if you will. Learn how to trust that you’ve done all you can to preclude a crisis. In the event that it still occurs, understand that you have the resilience to bounce back.

Before I offer you suggestions for eliminating worry from your daily “to-do” list, think about what a person actually gets out of worrying. How does it give back to the person who has selected it as their preferred activity? For one, worry allows people to avoid change. The act impedes on the person’s ability to take action because of being caught up in feelings of uneasiness and preoccupation. Also, worry makes people give away their power. Once worriers opt to wallow in the indecisive pool of anxiety, this is what controls them. This is what they have chosen—over living in the moment. Finally, choosing to worry gives people a false sense of purpose. Have you ever heard someone say, “I’ve been worried for hours!” They mean it! They’ve invested hours into a senseless, useless activity that has given them a false sense of purpose.

Two-step solution

            I’ll say it again: if I could find the benefit or the payoff for time spent worrying, I’d give the activity more consideration. But, I found a better way—and it’s only a two-step process:

Separate and list all of your concerns into two categories:
Things I can control
Things I cannot control
Control what you can and surrender the rest to destiny.

It’s that simple!

Body-Mind Relationship

Body-Mind Relationship

I saw this quote the other day:

“Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels.”

If I were to change one word of that quote, I’d change “skinny” to “healthy.” Then, it has meaning to me. I don’t strive for “skinny,” however, I know one truth: everything I do in life is done through the perspective of my physical body. My body is persistently reacting to my thoughts. When you think about it—to what else would it react? So, I consider my body to be a mirror of the way I think.

Having said that, if I feel healthy, it’s likely that the world around me will seem better—and if I’ve let my health go, my perspective will follow it. Also, I’ve learned that it works both ways: a person that feels good physically—typically thinks more positively; and, a positive thinker promotes a healthy body. Remember this concept as you move through your day. Be aware of your thoughts because your body is counting on them for its next move. You Can Do It!

Food Fuels Our Bodies—Not Our Souls!

Food Fuels Our Bodies—Not Our Souls!

Many of us have an unhealthy relationship with food. I’m not referring to those with clinical eating disorders, which are a serious problem in our country. I’m talking about the damaging relationship that starts when we forget that food is meant to fuel our bodies for activity. Let me repeat that with emphasis: food is meant to fuel our bodies for activity.

Instead of adopting this philosophy, many of us get caught up in mindless behavior that makes us act as though food is fuel for our souls. As such, we develop and act upon food cravings, which are emotional longings that convince us to snack in response to boredom, stress, and life calamities that have nothing to do with genuine hunger. We simply associate these foods with pleasure and turn to them for a quick dose of emotional satisfaction.

Having a healthy relationship with food means putting it back where it belongs: as the engine of activity that allows us to stay moving in our lives. By incorporating this “you are what you eat” mentality, eventually we come to crave only the foods our bodies need to stay active. That’s not to say the process is an easy one. Good nutrition takes discipline and hard work. It takes determination, commitment, practice, and time. In the end, however, our bodies re-calibrate in response to the good nutrition and the appeal of junk food begins to diminish.

One way to conquer this mind game is to plan a once-a-month binge. Pick your poison (I choose honey mustard pretzels) and control the binge. Many have reported it to be rather empowering. Plus, there’s no regret because it was planned. Best of all—we overcome the feeling of being deprived of our favorite guilty pleasures. You can do it!

Dealing with Regret

Dealing with Regret

As people age, they begin to realize how many opportunities they’ve squandered over the years. Moments of regrets and “should haves” are not uncommon. Some are petty, like hobbies that weren’t pursued. Others are more profound—like failing to take steps to repair a broken relationship before someone you were once close to passed away.

Experts believe feelings of regret are designed to impel us to action and help us follow through on making life-changing decisions. But as we get older and the opportunities for second chances diminish, these regrets can actually shorten our life spans by miring us in self-defeating thought patterns.

Think of it like this: regrets are only helpful when they give us an opportunity to do something about the situation causing us sorrow. Once that opportunity has passed, regrets are like thought-poison. By failing to take control of those thoughts, we’ll face our final years with pervasive hopelessness. Living a fulfilled life in the moment is about empowering ourselves to focus on what we can do rather than what we cannot do.

The Joy of Music, Movement and Dance

The Joy of Music, Movement and Dance

According to a University of Oxford study, there are many social and health benefits to dance. Even for people who believe they have “two left feet”, dancing helps people feel closer to and more connected to others. (Tom Barnes, https://mic.com, 11/4/15).

As we age, it’s true that some people have more limited mobility, yet just listening to the music provides an alternate way of participating in this very social activity. Clap your hands and sing along with the music, and allow the associated memories to contribute to a positive experience.

If you doubt benefits of music and dance, just think about the popularity of shows like “Dancing with the Stars” or “So You Think You Can Dance”. Even “armchair dancers” will tell you that their experience lifts their spirits and lessens depression.

While music and dance might not be for everyone, movement is still important. Follow these simple tips for keeping active and providing your body and soul with the stimulation it needs to thrive.

Make a commitment to move a little more every day. Whether it’s walking in the house, going to the gym, hiking or engaging in sports, make movement a habit.
Develop a buddy system. Find a friend, relative or neighbor who will support and encourage you to move more, and you can do the same for that person.
When possible, walk don’t ride. In malls, hotels, office buildings or other two-story (or higher) facilities, avoid escalators and elevators. Walk instead.

Look for new ways to move. If you were a tennis player and can no longer play, consider swimming. Develop other interests and take pride in doing what you can do. Focus on the “ability” not the “disability”.

Healthy Aging

Healthy Aging

There is no magical way to halt or reverse the aging process completely, but there are steps each of us can take. The first is to admit you are getting older. We all are. So stop fighting it. Embrace it. Own it. Even love it. While it’s true that there could be some  physical, and cognitive challenges that come with age, “age” is just a number. So modify your perception and adopt an attitude that proclaims, “I can and will live long and well, just like other chronologically-gifted centenarians.” I will do it, and so can you.

In the process, make a commitment to yourself, recognizing you may not be young anymore but you are still capable of growing. That belief is essential and one thing that all generations have in common. At any and every age, we only continue to thrive as we seek to improve and evolve into more well-rounded people. Whatever changes, no matter how small, you make that positively alter your outlook, your skills, your physical being or other aspects of living, will help benefit your self-esteem and enable you to become a little stronger every day as you strive to achieve the status of chronologically-gifted—dying healthy as a supercentenarian.

To begin the process of healthy aging, embark on a journey of adjusting your attitude by considering these four suggestions.

Think hard about why you want to live longer. Adopt a purpose.
Make a list of things you think you’re getting “too old for”. As you evolve, you will look at this list differently and process it with more optimism.
Make a list of things you’re not ready to give up. Be age inappropriate in spite what the ‘ageist’ society wants you to believe. Be adventurous; start something novel! It is never too late. This is a much more enjoyable exercise. List everything that comes to mind when you think of the stuff that makes life worth living. Be specific.
Fall in love with yourself again. This is not about narcissism. It’s about developing a healthy sense of self-love, wrinkles and all, and recognize you are the person who has a lot to offer.

Regardless of your chronological age, there are meaningful opportunities to participate in life. Seek them out. Defy  the “nay-sayers”. Embrace the aging process. Don’t fight it! I plan to reach the ripe age of 123. And you can too.

Amazing Advances in Medicine

Amazing Advances in Medicine

Medicine, medical devices and medical technology are advancing faster than ever. Take a look at some of the most innovative and exciting discoveries in recent years.

Dr. Anthony Atala, the first surgeon to build a human bladder and implant it in 2001, is now leading the way in the field of bioprinting, which according to the Oxford Dictionaries, is “the use of 3D printing technology with materials that incorporate viable living cells to produce tissue for reconstructive surgery.” (Discover Magazine, October 2016)
In the near future, the medical community hopes to have a working model of a tricorder, which was first inspired by Star Trek. The device will be a multifunction, hand-held medical instrument used for sensor scanning, data analysis and recording data.
HStar Technologies developed a robotic nursing assistant system. (RoNA) to help lift and move patients. According to Robotics Business Review, “the device will reduce the incidence of clinician workplace injuries and associated workman’s compensation claims and lost work time. It also results in fewer patient falls and injuries that occur due to improper or unsafe lifting.” The robotic system is getting positive reviews and feedback from clinicians and patients alike.
In some cases artificial retinas can restore sight to people who have lost their vision due to retinal degenerative diseases. Nano-Retina is an Israeli-based company that manufactures such a device that “replaces the functionality of the damaged photoreceptor cells and creates the electrical stimulation required to activate the remaining healthy retinal cells.” Just imagine the freedom and independence individuals with vision problems can experience as a result of this exciting new technology.
According to www.longevityatwork.org, the wearable devices market, or the remote patient monitoring devices market, is anticipated to reach $98 billion by the end of 2020. Remote patient monitoring allows patients to “keep a check on their own conditions, eliminating the need for repeated visits to the physician’s office. The precision of such devices have the potential to improve diagnosis, and a more customized treatment or post-treatment recuperative plan. The most significant growth drivers for the markets are the growing role these devices will play in diagnosis and treatment plans of chronic diseases such as diabetes, arthritis, and osteoporosis.”
Genomics is the study of genes and their function with the goal of understanding the structure of the genome, including the mapping genes and sequencing the DNA (www.medinenet.com). Since genes control everything, the more information scientists and medical researchers can discover, the greater the opportunities to extend life. The National Human Genome Research Institute in Bethesda, Maryland, produces an annual summary of advances in genomic medicine. Some of this year’s most exciting accomplishments include: ways to reduce risks in patients with minor strokes, an aid to treatment decisions in early-stage breast cancer and sequencing and the management of neurometabolic disorders. (www.genome.gov)

Based on the latest research in technology, medicine and psychology, the evidence is clear: Extending our healthy and engaged lives to 125 is attainable. By sharing this amazing and miraculous information with you, I am hoping you will join the quest to reach the status of super-centenarian. I can do it, and so can you!

Happiness and Health

Happiness and Health

Happiness is a topic that receives a lot of attention. For some, the definition is simple and clear-cut, like “prosperity”. For others, it is more complex referring to a sense of lasting well-being, contentment or joy. Or it can be more momentary in nature such as the experience of pleasure, fun or general satisfaction. Whatever your definition is, happiness is a mental state that when experienced and recognized can lead to greater longevity, less stress and more peace of mind.

Here are some quotes from well-respected leaders, authors and happiness experts. What calls to you?

“People who are happy accrue a lot of positive outcomes. They’re healthier, more creative and have better relationships. Happy people are not as self-centered as unhappy people. They’re more generous and other-focused.” (Sonja Jyubomirsky, AARP Bulletin, June 2016).
“We tend to think that we owe it to ourselves to be as happy as we can be. And this is true. But happiness is far more than a personal concern. It is also a moral obligation. (Dennis Prager, Happiness Is a Serious Problem, 1998)
“Happiness (positive emotions) broadens a person’s building blocks: stronger cognition, boosted creativity, improved memory, and increased energy. This foundation then leads to more life success, which in turn leads to more happiness.” (Paul Krismer, happinessexperts.ca)
“Happiness is that state of consciousness which proceeds from the achievement of one’s values.” (Ayn Rand)
“Happiness is something that you are and it comes from the way you think.” (Wayne Dyer)
“Happiness is the spiritual experience living every minute with love, grace and gratitude.” (Denis Waitley)
“True happiness comes not when we get rid of all of our problems, but when we change our relationship to them, when we see our problems as a potential source of awakening, opportunities to practice, and to learn.” (Richard Carlson, Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff and It’s All Small Stuff)

In spite of our obsession with youth, happiness is not just for the young. In fact, happiness can actually increase with age, especially for those individuals who choose to be happy. It’s a conscious decision that can be reinforced by the life choices we make such as more frequent exercise, deeper engagement with family and friends, a greater commitment to life-long learning and the act of giving to others.

You Can Never Laugh Too Much

You Can Never Laugh Too Much

The body of knowledge on laughter—its origin, its psychology, its physiology, its role in society—is extensive. Yet if you boil it down to its essence, what’s most important is recognizing the amazing benefits that laughter provides. Here are just a few:

Laughter facilitates social bonding.
Laughter produces endorphins that make us feel better instantly.
Laughter has health benefits such as easing stress, lowering blood pressure, preventing heart attacks, and even reducing cholesterol.
Laughter is free and has no negative side effects.

In spite of all the information available though, we often forget to tap into this key coping mechanism. To change this requires a personal commitment, awareness and daily practice. Begin with a smile, which is the first step in experiencing laughter. Then look for opportunities to laugh in your day-to-day world. They’re all around you. Listen to and tell jokes. Practice storytelling that contains elements of satire, the absurd, the weird or even sarcasm. Read books or articles that contain humor. Become more playful and positive with family and friends. Watch and listen to comedians.

The fact is, you can never laugh too much. If you want more laughter in your life, you can have it. The power is in your hands.

Overcoming Stress

Overcoming Stress

Stress, according to the Oxford Dictionary, is “a state of mental or emotional tension resulting from adverse of very demanding circumstances.” Often stress results in a feeling of powerlessness or depression that can spiral out of control and leave people feeling stuck and immobilized to change their current situations. It can be expressed in terms of personal insecurities, guild, negative thoughts or general, non-specific worry. Regardless of the source, it is also one of the highest risk factors for cancer and a shortened life span.

Unfortunately, there is no “one size fits all” solution for managing stress. That said, here are some tips and suggestions you can use to reduce stress and heal your life:

Get healthy. Quit smoking. Reduce drinking. Avoid junk food.
Use music (singing, listening, playing) as therapy.
Walk and exercise more. Make it a daily habit.
Reach out to others. Talk to trusted colleagues, friends, family members or a professional counselor.
Do volunteer work.
Learn to say “no” to people and activities that are toxic for you.
Learn to adapt. Flexibility is key. Put things in perspective.
Make time for fun and relaxation. Laugh, engage, and live audaciously.

The Power of Memory

The Power of Memory

Traumatic memories as reported by people who have experienced unspeakable physical and/or psychological abuse and brutality can have long-lasting negative effects on their personalities, their relationships with others and the way they live their lives in the present.

I remember as a young girl in Rumania, watching my father being beaten with no mercy as Nazi perpetrators yelled, “Filthy Jews”. We were forced onto a train where there was no food, no water, no toilets. I can still hear the sobbing and wailing by our fellow travelers. After several days, we were taken off the trains and forced to walk for what seemed like a very long time to a holding camp. We were covered with layers of mud, freezing, wet, filthy, miserable and terrified. The beatings continued. There was nothing I could do then to help my Papa. No child should bear witness to such a degradation of one’s parent.

These memories and visions are still very vivid to me. However, I have not let them destroy my life. My family and I were spared and did not die in the Holocaust. I don’t know why, and it doesn’t really matter. What does matter is that I emerged with a zest for life and the recognition of how lucky I was to have survived.

The truth is that your past does not own you. You own your future, and your past is your toolbox whenever necessary. What’s important is that you gain control of who you are, what you want to become and how you view yourself in the context of your life. These beliefs have stayed with me all of my life. I chose a life as a mental health professional so that I could participate in ‘TIKUN OLAM’ (repairing the world) uplift the vulnerable, inspire and empower them, in their plight against abuse and brutality toward a healthy meaningful life awaiting them.

Overcoming Trauma: You Can Do It!

Overcoming Trauma: You Can Do It!

Many people are traumatized during their lifetimes, some at an early age and some as adults. Regardless of when the trauma occurs, many people never really overcome it completely.

However, there are ways and steps you can take to minimize the impact and effect of trauma. The interesting aspect of the experience of trauma is that it doesn’t matter if you’ve been a victim of a crime or a witness to one, been in an abusive relationship, or been in an accident or experienced a natural disaster. The dynamics are very similar. Without help and a readiness to deal with the experience, the pain and the fear, you will tend to re-live the event over and over again. There will be flashbacks, nightmares and perhaps obsessive behaviors that surround the memory of the suffering.

To overcome trauma, it is important to first understand your role in it and the payback you receive for holding on to it. A competent counselor can help you understand these dynamics and move beyond them. In a safe environment, you can talk about your thoughts, feelings and reactions to the traumatic event or events. As a result, you will be able to move beyond your pain, fear, shock, anger—regardless of how justified they may be. Second, the recovery process involves a decision to let-go, forgive and become more forward-thinking. This requires individuals to take positive actions and create a new peace of mind that allows them to live in the moment, make better choices, and create a new reality. Music, meditation, yoga, and exercise are tools that can help with this process.

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